Im dating my friends ex
Honestly, the relationship had been over for a while, so by the time the breakup actually went down, it was pretty friendly; we still talk all the time.
She’s got a friend I’ve always found really attractive, and recently the friend mentioned to my ex-girlfriend that she’s interested in me too.
Sure, you say you and your ex are friends now and talk all the time.
But don’t fool yourself into thinking there isn’t more at stake here than just asking out the friend of a friend.
Relationship coach and author Lisa Hayes told us, “You’ve got to get the green light. Instead of simply asking if it’s OK, you should instead ask a more thought-provoking and conversation-stimulating question.
For example, ‘How While this situation might yield an unfavorable response based on the rules of guy code, Jennifer Kelman, LCSW and relationship expert, says that although it might be considered faux pas, it’s unnatural to think it can’t or won’t happen.
You get a few points for asking your ex if it’s okay. From the way you describe it, you can go out with her friend! Your friendship with your ex will never get off the ground—at least not until you stop dating her friends.
And perhaps more importantly, you’ll be shunned and given skeezy asshole status by her protective posse of friends (as you should be), which means that minus her one rogue friend who’s actually dumb enough to go out with you, you’ll never date anyone else in her circle—or even six degrees of her circle.
Eventually, you’ll lose on both counts: your ex as a friend, and her friend as a potential girlfriend.All you’ve said about your ex’s friend is that you find her attractive and you’re interested.“Interested” is not enough of a reason in my book to breach the Golden Dating Rule.As Michele Fabrega, a love, intimacy, and sexuality coach for men, tells The Cheat Sheet to consider these factors first: If you really consider your buddy a true friend, then clearly you’ve given this much thought prior to deciding to move forward.Because you think it’s worth it to pursue a relationship with his ex, it’s important to be honest – with both yourself and your friend.
While it’s best to approach your friend for a discussion prior to making a move or pursuing a relationship, Kelman suggests that you don’t need to get permission from your friend, either.